Caring for Our Kids
Mar 14, 2013 09:38AM
● By tina
The Faltys children: Dave, Peyton, Kenton, and Lauren
CISD News with Dr. David Faltys, CISD Superintendent
As we move into spring, I am reminded of how busy this time of year can be for our students, families and staff. Between testing, tennis practices, gymnastic meets and dance recitals, it seems family members are constantly coming and going in different directions. I know your families are just as busy.
On top of the usual to-dos and places to go, I want to remind you of some of the issues our students are dealing with at this time. Many of them have lost friends this school year through accidents and tragedies. They are hurting and dealing with loss, and we have to ensure that they know they have a safe place to come to talk about their feelings. Academics are obviously very important for children, but I believe the most important thing for them is that they feel safe and cared for by the adults in their lives.
I remember a quote from an expert who was speaking on building resiliency in our kids. She stated, “It’s important for our kids to have one caring, competent adult to rely upon. It’s great if it’s mom or dad, but it doesn’t have to be.” That’s one of the benefits for young ones who get involved in activities outside the academic school day. There are tremendous opportunities to build relationships with sponsors and coaches who care deeply about them. It’s for this very reason that our district mission extends beyond the classroom to develop children socially and through involvement in extracurricular activities.
Our community has come together in an unprecedented way to ensure we are doing all we can to provide a safe place for our kids. Our city and school district are working together on a task force to look at ways to help increase security, studying and improving our facilities and safety systems. We are looking at programs to help students deal with depression, thoughts of suicide and drug and alcohol use.
Even with increased security, the best protective measure can be ensuring you have great relationships with your kids. Children long for meaningful relationships with adults who love them— never underestimate the importance of connecting with a child. I want to encourage you to spend time talking to your kids about what is going on in their lives. Be sure to listen to them without judging. Be there for them and know the time you invest in them will be more than worth it. Help them to understand that no matter how bad things seem at the time, there is always someone they can trust with whom they can talk and share their feelings.
I’ve sat with too many families this year mourning the loss of a child. In their brokenness and longing for answers, the parents have almost always said they wish they just had a little more time with the young one — one more chance to hug him or her and say, “I love you.” They wish they wouldn’t have worried so much about grades and tests and the mundane stresses of our busy lives.
The time we have with our children is so precious and so fleeting. Live each day to the fullest and be sure to take every opportunity to say, “I love you.” Every child needs at least one caring adult…be that adult!
Dr. David Faltys serves as Superintendent of Carroll Independent School District, the largest 5A Exemplary district in the state of Texas. He was named by the 2010 Region XI Superintendent of the Year after being nominated for the award by his local School Board. David and his wife, Jennifer, have four children: Dave, Peyton, Kenton and Lauren.